it may be that some of the moments that distinguish 1994 are for some of us very private

it may be that some of the moments that distinguish 1994 are, for some of us, very private. If you have discovered this year that your wife is having an affair with your MP, or that your husbandis a serial killer, that moment could well be the most enduring of 1994 for you. DUNK Industrial Chaplain Diocese of Birmingham Birmingham 16 December. Today I am proud to bring you the climax of this year's Moment of the Year Award ceremony.

Here is the conclusion of the speech by Lord Crudwick, chief executive of the National Sound-Bite Library, sponsors of the Moment Of The Year Award. Tennyson's loss of a close friend at sea is immortalised in his long poem In Memoriam and might be of help to those who wish their loved ones were buried on dry land.Reute O to us, The fools of habit, sweeter seems Reute To rest beneath the clover sod, That takes the sunshine and the rains, Or where the kneeling hamlet drains, The chalice of the grapes of God; Reute Than if with thee the roaring wells Should gulf himfathom-deep in brine; And hands so often clasp'd in mine, Should toss with tangle and with shells.Each line in the following part begins "Calm .. " May they rest in peace.Yours faithfully, M R. I met in Sweden several people who knew someone on the Estonia and the feeling of collective grief was tangible, as was the almost universal belief that it should be raised. The mood has changed, and one can only hope and pray that those who are not happy with the decision will, with help, come to terms with their personal loss. My wife and I were on the penultimate voyage of the Estonia and we vividly recall the boat, with its crew and passengers now lying 23 miles away from the nearest shore. From The Rev Michael Dunk Sir: The decision to leave the Estonia, with its 800 bodies at the bottom of the Baltic Sea, was undoubtedly a hard one for the governments of Sweden and Estonia to take. Common sense prevailed, the emotional needs of families and friends took second place. For the bereaved, without a body to say a final farewell to, the process of grieving may prove difficult to work through.

Recently they again put me off, without suggesting an alternative date. It might help to restore confidence in the Bahrain Government's good intentions if they would reinstate their invitation to me, for a January visit.Yours faithfully, ERIC AVEBURY House of Lords London, SW120 December The writer is Chairman of the Parliamentary Human Rights Group.. Four people are known to have been killed by the security forces, and others are critically injured. Under the emergency law prevailing in Bahrain, a person may be detained without charge for three years, and the detention may be renewed indefinitely.Michael Sheridan does point out that a British citizen, Ian Henderson, commands the security apparatus of Bahrain, and many people here will be surprised that we should tolerate an arrangement which associates us with abuses of human rights in another country.I had hoped to visit Bahrain as the guest of the Government in November, but the authorities cancelled at the last moment, suggesting that early 1995 would be more convenient. There is no question of revival of Iranian claims to Bahrain, which were disposed of by the United Nations nearlya quarter of a century ago.We have a list of 79 people arrested since the troubles began on 5 December but we know that the actual total is much higher.